Aftercare: The time after a session in which the participants calm down, discuss the previous events and their personal reactions to them, and slowly come back in touch with reality. BDSM scenes result in endorphin highs for the submissive as well as the Mistress. In addition to the mental aspects, the Mistress will carefully observe any marks, abrasions, or other issues that may need to be addressed. This is an implied part of the BDSM session.
Bastinado: The whipping of one’s feet. Typically done with a cane while the submissive is bound.
BDSM: The term refers to Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism. Other are M/S (Mistress/Slave), D/S (Dominant/Submissive) The terms may refer to acts of such or to define the relationship which one is in.
Bondage: The act of physical restraint by any means the Mistress wishes. This may be rope, cuffs, chains, various wraps, etc.
Boot Worship: The act of being allowed to view, touch, clean, or kiss Mistress’ boots.
Breath Play: The act of controlling one’s ability to breath.
Butt Plug: A pear shaped device that varies in size and material composition. The pear shape is designed to retain it in the submissive during play. In some cases, the plug may have a tail attached for pony boy play.
Chastity: A form of orgasm and/or sexual denial. This can be by means of a cock cage or other chastity device. This may be installed by Mistress, or in the case of an long distance submissive, they will be ordered to purchase and install the device and mail the key to Mistress.
Cock and Ball Torture: Also known as CBT. This is the act of torturing the mail genitalia with any device or tool that brings the Mistress pleasure. It can be anything from cigarettes, alligator clips, floggers, to a Wartenburg wheel. At no time during CBT will the submissive be allowed to orgasm unless expressly directed to do so.
Collared: Submissive or slave that is in a committed relationship with the Mistress. The Mistress may have multiple collared submissives at any one time. To become a collared submissive/slave, they will enter into a contract as such with Mistress that will detail the intricacies of the relationship.
Consent: Mutual agreement to the terms of the relationship between the Mistress and submissive/slave.Consenual Non-Consent: A mutual agreement with limits defined via contract where consent will be given as read without foreknowledge of the exact actions planned. As such, it is a show of trust and understanding and usually undertaken only by partners who know each other well, or otherwise agree to set clear safe limits on their activities.
Contract: A written agreement between the Mistress and submissive/slave that clearly outlines the limits, expectations, boundaries and rules of the relationship. The contract is different for every slave and is required by Lady Sultry. The content of the contract is based on the application for servitude and personal interview.
Dominant/Domme/Dominatrix/Mistress: Terms are all interchangeable for the purposes of a session. The empowered female who will exert her authority and power over you during a session. Anytime you converse with the Mistress, you will address her as Ma’am or Lady Sultry until, and if, she gives you permission to address her as Mistress.
Electro Play: The act of using electrical stimulation to various parts of the body. This is a safe act usually applied by the use of TENS units, violet wands and other electro torture devices. The stimulation can be applied to nearly any part of the body including the male genitalia.
Erotic Sexual Denial: The act of keeping the submissive sexually aroused while denying the release/resolution of the pent-up feelings. This keeps the submissive in a heightened state of sensitivity and anxiety.
Fisting: Inserting the fist into the anus. (Mistress does not do fisting)
Financial Slave: One who gives over control of their personal finances to a Mistress.
Flagellation/Flogging: The use of various instruments known as “floggers” for impact play.
Hard limits: Any act that Mistress or slave absolutely will not participate in. As a note, any request to breach these limits will end a session instantly and will result in the submissive being asked to leave and being black-listed from any future play.
Impact Play: Play involving impact instruments such as whips, floggers, belts, straps, and canes.
Knife Play: Slow erotic sensory play with edged and pointed instruments such as knives and scalpels.
Mistress/slave or M/s: This is the nexus of the relationship we are entering into via contract or otherwise. It describes the Female Led Relationship and dynamic involved between the Mistress and Her submissive. It is to be understood that the Mistress is the supreme being and fully embodies Female Superiority over the male species.
Pegging: The act of utilizing butt plugs and strap on devices for the soul pleasure of the Mistress.
Pro Domme or Professional Dominatrix: Female Dominant (me) that expects a tribute be submitted for the privilege of worshipping her. (See the definition of Tribute)
Sadist: Person who enjoys inflicting pain.
Safe, Sane, and Consensual: This is the basis of any BDSM or fetish related relationship. Both Mistress and slave are bound to these principles. All play will be safe with no permanent damage to the slave’s body or mental health. All play will be within a normal level of sanity. In other words, I will not treat you like a dinner guest at Hannibal Lechter’s house). All play will be consensual between the Mistress and slave. Interviews, applications, and contracts are to assure both parties understand the expectations of the relationship.
Sensation Play: Play that pushes and tests one’s sensory limits. This can include blindfolding, pin wheels, needles, knife edge play, etc.
Service Submissive: A submissive that is kept by Mistress for the purpose of domestic service. This includes, but not limited to lawn care, laundry, housekeeping, shopping, foot massages, home repair, and cooking. It never, under any circumstances indicates a sexual service of any kind.
Submissive/Slave: At times these have been interchanged. For the purposes of our relationships, a submissive is one who gives over full control of their mind and body to the Mistress for a specified time, usually during a session. A slave willingly gives full control of some aspect of their lives for a much longer period. This includes forced long distance chastity, financial domination and tasks given during live video sessions.
Topping from the bottom: When a submissive intentionally tries to influence the Mistress for their own benefit. This will absolutely not be tolerated.
Training: When the Mistress agrees to take on a submissive that is new to BDSM lifestyle dynamics, she will agree to train the new submissive in the protocols she prefers. Mistress may also train other women how to maximize the benefits of a Female Led Relationship.
Tribute: The time given to you by Mistress is not free as her time is very valuable and as such, the act of showing Mistress your appreciation and devotion for being allowed to serve her is defined as a Tribute. Tribute comes in endless forms. This can be in the form of cash, stocks, bonds, purchasing items from wish lists such as Amazon, etc. It can also be offering items such as boots, shoes, corsets, BDSM toys, camera gear, cars, boats, private islands, etc.
Wax Play: The use of candle wax for sensual play by dripping the melted wax on various parts of the body. It may also refer to waxing the male genitalia during a session as a form of sensual pain play.